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First post in 10 years of watching board (Hair Multiplication & Research)

posted by Wiskers, 06.07.2008, 04:25
(edited by Wiskers on 06.07.2008, 04:36)

Hey man,

I'm sorry about your girl (they can be real heartless sometimes).

First of all, while there is no cure yet, look at the progress we have made in the last ten years and that alone should get your spirits up. Of course there is a chance that a cure won't come, but looking at what has happened in only ten years, it seems a reasonable and well backed philosophy to hope for a cure.

But while your waiting, don't get down, just look at what you can do right now. Look the best you can (that's all that anyone can do anyway). You can shave your head, so you don't have the horseshoe-look and if your worried about being too pale, just get some tanning lotion (my ex-girlfriend sometimes used it, and that stuff has gotten a lot less orange in the last few years). Also keep in mind that while there are people out there like your girlfriend who may dump you because of your hair, that's not everyone. Give nice girls a chance.

I don't know if you have problems with girls now, but if you do, then read below. I know you are older than I am, and I'm not trying to be patronizing, but I think maybe some of my own experience might be able to help you. Sometimes you can learn things about yourself and about women in couple of years, which you might not have realized for the previous 20. I used to have real problems with girls, and it took me until only a few years ago to work out these problems, but I did...And I'm happy to say that while I'm not a playboy, I have no problem getting a couple dates a week (probably more than half don't work out, but that's the point...You wait for the ones that do. :ok:

I know many guys will say that it's way too hard to get girls when your bald. I know for a fact that, this is (bullpoo). I used to have a really hard time with girls, and people would say, 'just work on your personality'. I thought they were were just trying to cheer me up but didn't really believe this, so I would blame my bad luck with girls on something that was wrong with my looks (like I'm a little to short, or my nose isn't perfectly symmetrical, or my teeth weren't to white), and it made me miserable. But over the last few years I have learned some things about girls.

1. They pick up on every little insecurity you're feeling, or if you try to hide your insecurities it can sometimes make them worse (for example, I used to be very nervous when talking to girls, so I would try to cover this insecurity by acting like I wasn't too interested in them, which would sometimes work, but generally they just thought I was an a55). What I finally realized is that the problem, was not my looks (although if you asked me three years ago I would have said I was 100% sure it was).
This, in itself, should give you more confidence because if you think that girls are judging your personality and not only your looks, you will find less of a need to feel insecure, and then girls will have no weakness to pick up on.

2. They care about confidence and cockiness just as much (some girls more, some less) as looks.

3. Even if your Johnny Depp, you can still find a few of girls that don't like you. Not every girl is going to like you. It might not be because your bald, it could be because you're too nice and they like 'A - holes', you're too mean and they like nice guys, or even because some girls like guys who look exotic and some girls like light skinned men and some like dark skinned men. There are many reasons a girl might not like you and for some of them, if the girl told you, you might not even take them personally (like you remind her too much of her dad or her ex).

4. The main point is confidence, if you're confident you can find girls. This is probably something that many people have told you, but may have dismissed. But take it from me, as someone who used to be bad with girls and is now (while not amazing) pretty fing good, that confidence matters. If you think it doesn't then it's probably because you have gone out trying to act confident and failed anyway with girls. There are one of two explanations for this problem:
1. You can't base such an experience on just 1, 2 or even 10 girls (they could just happen to be the wrong 10)
2) Thinking that you are acting confident and acting confident are sometimes VERY VERY different things. It's something you have to work on, and eventually it will get easier and you will actually become more confident, but until you have the confidence be prepared to be rejected sometimes. Once you have confidence you won't mind being rejected and you can more on real quick and find a date.

I hope this may have helped, but if you were looking more for just outlook about progress in the area of hair loss, than I wouldn't be too pessimistic, just do what you can now...And then something will probably come along to save your hair when you're least expecting it. Don't expect a miracle this year (or you'll be real upset when nothing happens by December), but don't get down either, keep your hopes up and have faith in bureaucratically-driven science.:-D


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